We have become immersed in societal, cultural, or religious norms that dictate how we should approach relationships. But what if we removed these restrictions and considered what would human beings’ natural inclination be? Are we actually a species that desires to be in a relationship with one person and one person only for the rest of our lives? If there were no restrictions, would we consider having multiple relationships at once? To determine the answer to this question, we must examine what is at the root of all relationships, which is emotions. People want to be in a relationship because it makes them feel important or special. They want to establish that special bond with someone who no one else has. Is this possible to pull off with multiple people? You could argue that having multiple partners would dilute the special bond you have with any one person. The problem here is also the emotion of jealousy. Jealousy comes from a lack of self-esteem to some degree. You think that someone else has it better than you and that you might not be good enough. But if you had the confidence that your partner loved you as equally as he loved other partners, would that really be a problem?
If you think about the concept of an open relationship from a strictly logical perspective, there are many aspects of it that make sense. Human happiness is ultimately derived from establishing relationships with other people. Why would you only limit yourself to one person in the entire world when there are so many people with so much to offer? You would never invest your entire life savings in one stock, no matter how good you thought it was. Likewise, it is very risky to put your entire emotional stock into one person. If having an open relationship did not detract from your relationship with that person, then wouldn’t it benefit everyone involved? Everyone would be happier because they would have multiple relationships established, multiple special and intimate connections, and would not be devastated if one relationship went wrong because they could fall back on another. I don’t think anyone would be opposed to the idea of having more people love you and being able to express that love.
Society and religion have convinced us that polygamy or having an open relationship is not normal. However, our natural inclination is for us to do what makes us happy. What makes us happy is establishing special connections with people. The more special connections you have, the happier you will be. Sure you can have a ton of friends and family that you care about, but that sort of connection is not on the same level as an intimate relationship. The evidence is there to suggest that this would be a better system. The trend in this generation is getting married much later, having a family without being married, or even just staying single. We hear time and again the problems that arise in marriages from two people just being sick of each other. It is very hard to live with one person for your entire life, no matter how much you care about them. You could relieve a lot of stress and have a much higher success rate in relationships if you agreed to have multiple partners. This isn’t purely sexual relationships either, despite the hook up culture that is engrained in our society. I am talking about having legitimate intimate relationships with more than one person at the same time. This might not work for many people, which is understandable, but I think it is something to at least consider.
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