We have all heard the saying “Don’t judge a book by its cover”, but in reality not judging someone or something may just be one of the hardest things you can possibly do. Whether we know it or not, we instantly make several assumptions about someone or something within seconds of seeing them or hearing them mentioned. We develop so many preconceived notions how things are or should be, that when something with a certain quality appears, we instantly make a judgment based on our preconceived notion. Why do we do this? I think it is because we are afraid of uncertainty, afraid of the unknown. We need to instantly classify something into a category in order to help us prepare for what it might bring us. I know personally when I see someone I instantly try to figure out what kind of person they are simply based on their appearance or initial actions. It comes naturally, like an instinct, so how do we overcome this?
The most important thing is to not let our judgments determine our actions. We may have some ideas of what someone is like before we know them, but it is critical that we act with an open mind. If we keep an open mind and get to know someone, then those initial ideas and judgments can be transformed. If we act based upon our initial judgments, this may prevent us from really getting to know who someone is. It is impossible to know someone’s personality or lifestyle solely based on their appearance. Therefore, allow your opinions to change. Don’t let your judgments constrict you. Take a risk and meet someone you have a negative impression of. You never know when you may be surprised.
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