I refuse to believe that love is some strange, magical, mystery that cannot be explained or solved. Therefore, I am going to try to approach it the way I approach everything: logically. Maybe this way we can figure out how to better express or control love.
The first step is to take a look at a dictionary definition: “An intense feeling of deep affection.” If we break this definition down, there are two main aspects. “An intense feeling” is simply referring to an emotion. Love is an emotion, but what distinguishes it as a unique emotion is the word “affection.” We could also use the word attraction. Our goal is to try to explain the origin of this attraction and how it functions.
I am going to focus here on love towards other people. I love candy, but that is because I was born with a sweet tooth and am biologically engineered to enjoy different tastes. I love sports, but that is because I was brought up in an environment where I was frequently exposed to sports and learned to enjoy them. There is not a simple answer for love of other people. We are going to break this down even further and talk specifically about love for who a person is, not just their looks. Physical attraction is just an instinct we were all born with more or less. But what makes us truly “in love” with someone else to the point that we want to spend the rest of our lives with them?
First off, let’s take a look at similarities. Often times people are attracted to each other because they have a lot in common. They enjoy doing similar activities which makes hanging out together enjoyable. However, I would argue that this is not at the core of love. This is the friendship aspect of a relationship. People who are dating or married are also best friends. We need to dig deeper to find out the core component of love that is unique in and of itself.
So what about personality? Many people often say it is more about personality than about looks. Is personality at the heart of being in love? Maybe. People with similar personalities usually similar beliefs or lifestyles, which could create a genuine attraction between them. However, many people with distinctly opposite personalities are in relationships that are just as strong as well. I think personality narrows it down some more, but I still feel like there is something even deeper to be found.
I mentioned off the top that love is an emotion, so at the end of the day we are not going to be able to explain it logically. But what I would argue is that love is not just an emotion, it is made up of all the other emotions combined, similar to how black is formed from combining all of the other colors. Love includes the happiness we get from hanging out with someone, the passion we experience from the physical relationship, the excitement of seeing the other person happy, the sadness from seeing someone hurt, the jealousy we have from seeing someone else with the person we love, the anger when the person is wronged, and finally the joy we have of experiencing life together with another person.
Conclusion: Love is made up of a physical and emotional attraction that is rooted in a complex interconnected web of emotions that ultimately cannot be explained.
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