We have all had arguments at some point in our lives. Some we lose, some we win, and some we think we win. Regardless, there are certain aspects that should be taken into account to help you improve your argument skills. By no means am I an expert arguer, but I believe I have some valid tips on how to win an argument.
1. Do not argue over facts
In today’s day and age there is so much information available. Therefore, you should never argue over anything that is a fact because all you have to do is take out your smartphone and look up the answer. Arguments should be over opinions, and while opinions are not always right or wrong, there are ways to effectively argue your point of view better than someone else argues theirs.
2. Insults never win arguments
This one is pretty self-explanatory but very hard to put into practice. We have all had times where we have gotten into heated arguments and the urge to yell insults at someone is too great to hold back. The problem is, this does not effectively contribute to the argument. Insults stem from emotions, and emotions can never win arguments. Which brings me to my next tip…
3. Only use facts and logic in an argument, not emotions
This is the most important tip anyone having an argument can get. The most effective way to build strong support for an argument is to use facts and logic. Facts cannot be disputed, so if you build your argument off facts and use logic to connect those facts, then you cannot lose. Saying things out of emotion will always get you in trouble because they are either not relevant or not true. Yelling will also never help your argument, even if you are yelling facts.
4. Do not use analogies
Often times there is a temptation to compare your situation to another using an analogy. The problem with this is that it is not always logical, and even when it is there is never a perfect analogy to explain your situation. You are better off just describing the present situation in a logical manner. If you do a good job of this, you will not need to use an analogy.
5. Make sure you know exactly what the other person is arguing
Many people have had trouble arguing against me on this one. Often times, I will play devil’s advocate and argue for the possibility of not A. However, people thing I am arguing for B. There is a huge difference because it is a lot harder to argue for something then it is to argue that there is a possibility this thing is not true. Therefore, understand what your opponent is arguing, point out the correct things he is saying, and counter his incorrect points with facts in a logical manner.
6. Do not get offended when people disagree with you
This one easily by far annoys me the most. Just because I am having an argument with you does not mean I hate you or disrepect you as a person. Often times people will get so offended just because I am trying to have a simple argument with them. I don’t say anything offensive, but people will take it personally. IT IS OK TO HAVE A MATURE ARGUMENT AND AGREE TO DISAGREE WITHOUT MAKING IT PERSONAL.
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